Ever met someone and instantly thought, “Nope, not my vibe” but couldn’t explain why? In this episode of JacQ of All Trades, I dive into why our brains sometimes reject people without giving us the courtesy of an explanation.
We’ll talk about:
- Why “not my vibe” doesn’t automatically mean “bad person”
- How to separate gut instincts from unfair projections
- The very real difference between a values mismatch and just plain grumpiness
- And a reminder to please, for the love of Wi-Fi, be kind to strangers online
This isn’t about judging people, it’s about understanding ourselves, protecting our energy, and not being jerks to people we don’t even know.
Whether you’re curious about your own “nope” radar or just need a pep talk on kindness in the digital age, this one’s for you.
Full Episode Transcript:
Hey, welcome back to JacQ of All Trades. This is Episode 9, and today we’re diving into something we’ve all felt but don’t always talk about out loud: why we just don’t like certain people.
Sometimes you meet someone, they say hello, and your brain immediately goes, “I like this person”. No background story and no actual reason. Just chemistry. And it got me wondering: if we don’t need a reason to like someone, do we also not need a reason to dislike them? Let’s talk about it.
I used to tell my friends this all the time: “I don’t like them. No reason. Just a vibe.”
Of course, my friends, being the logical detectives, would always ask, “Okay, but why?”
“I dunno. Just don’t.”
And here’s what I figured out over time: “no reason” is rarely actually no reason. It’s more like “reasons not yet discovered.”
Sometimes it’s just we’ve got nothing in common. Or maybe our personalities clash. Or maybe they give off an energy that rubs against mine. Funny thing is, some of those people I once disliked? Later on, I actually liked them, once we found some common ground. Turns out my “nope” was really just “we haven’t synced yet.”
Humans are basically walking vibe detectors. Especially the more sensitive or intuitive among us. We pick up on everything: tone, body language, sense of humor, even how someone pauses between sentences.
Sometimes our brains take all that information, process it in 0.2 seconds, and stamp it with a big ol’ “NOPE” without giving us an explanation.
And here’s where it gets tricky: people often confuse “not my vibe” with “bad person.” But those are not the same thing. Not everyone has to be your person and that’s perfectly okay.
That’s why whenever I tell my friends, “I don’t like this person,” I always add a disclaimer: “Doesn’t mean they’re a bad person. Just not for me.” Because vibes aren’t morality tests.
Now… let’s bring this online.
In real life, if someone isn’t your cup of tea, you usually just… avoid them. No dramatic announcement whatsoever. You just politely turn them down whenever they invite you to hang out.
But online? Oh, people don’t just walk away. They set up camp in the comments section and throw digital tomatoes.
I see it all the time with YouTubers and streamers. Instead of quietly clicking away if they don’t vibe, people will post rants, hurl insults, or basically bully.
Imagine walking out of a café because you didn’t like the music. But before you leave, you stop, turn to the barista, and scream: “YOUR PLAYLIST SUCKS AND SO DOES YOUR FACE!” Then slam the door.
That’s exactly what comment sections look like some days. And it’s wild. Like, no one asked for that kind of energy.
Look, we all have people we don’t click with. That’s just life.
But the next time you’re about to type something nasty about a creator or honestly, anyone, pause and check yourself:
- Do I actually dislike this person, or do we just not vibe?
- Is there harm in just… walking away quietly instead of throwing digital rotten eggs?
- Would I scream this in someone’s face in real life? (And if the answer is yes… we need to have another conversation.)
My dear friends, not vibing with someone doesn’t make them a villain. And it doesn’t make you one either. It just means you’re tuned into a different frequency.
Seriously, we all need to be careful with our words. We don’t know what someone’s going through. They could be struggling with health issues, family problems, or just fighting invisible battles to get through the day. One cruel comment could feel like the final straw. And trust me, you don’t want to be the person who delivers that.
So let’s normalize this: if someone’s not your vibe, that’s fine. But you don’t need to announce it, and you definitely don’t need to throw hate. Sometimes, the kindest thing you can do is… scroll away in silence.
[Outro]
And that’s it for this episode of JacQ of All Trades. If you’ve ever been tempted to roast someone online just because they weren’t your vibe, maybe this is your reminder that the quiet exit is always an option.
Thanks for tuning in, be kind to yourself and others, and I’ll catch you in the next episode.
