My New Perspective on Life

I reflect on my life pretty often ever since I turned 30. I still remember when I had like a mild panic attack and started to speed up everything I do as if I was going to die the next day. Yeesh! It was bad as it stressed me up even more.

Today I turned 35. Do I still get nervous about getting older? A little. But I also know that there’s no way I could avoid this. While I used to get motivated by all sort of inspirational quotes, I no longer do as I stumbled upon a short phrase that get me going more than anything else ever did. It was said by Gary Vaynerchuk to a fan who asked for 3 words to give her inspiration whenever she’s feeling down.

That’s it! It’s definitely effective for me to move my ass and do something about my life. I no longer want to do things or be with people that make me feel unhappy. For the past 6 years since I left the corporate world, my daily life revolves around hustling to make more money. Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy what I do for sure but you can actually still get burned out doing what you love.

Then, after a major relationship breakdown that occurred in 2014 and having gone through depression for a little over 6 months, little did I know that my perspective of life has undergone some changes. It took me quite a while to realize that and I finally can put them into writing now.

Choices

While some believe in coincidences and fates, I believe that the things that happened and will happen to me are the results of my choices. There are times that I know of the consequences of my choices and I still do it anyway, I should accept my decisions with no regrets. There are also times that the results of my choices were unexpected. Sometimes better and sometimes worse. But it doesn’t matter anyway. The moment I decide on something, I’ll live with whatever consequences. When you can make choices and live with the consequences of your decisions and actions, you’re taking full control of your life with no regrets.

Imperfections

Being a perfectionist, I’ve been struggling for the longest time to let go of the obsessive needs to be perfect in everything I do. This results in procrastination as I keep putting off things that I need to do in both my personal life and business as well. It’s when I decided that I should do it anyway and learn from mistakes (if any) along the way that I started to see progress in both areas of life. As it turned out, my fear of making mistakes turned out to be untrue considering most of the time, everything just flow smoothly. I begin to accept that it’s okay to not be perfect because nobody is perfect anyway.

Detachment

I used to be a hoarder. I would keep all the movie tickets and receipts of significant events or dates. I would keep all the souvenirs, gifts, and items that I don’t have any use of but have fond memories of. This created clutters in every aspects of my life; physical clutters, digital clutters and emotional clutters. It’s only when I learn to let go of all these things instead of attaching emotions to each of them that I’m able to take control of my life again. With detachment, I’m able to “declutter” the things and people that don’t serve any purpose in my life and be free to live my life in my own terms.

With the realization that I have power to make and live with my choices and imperfections, I’m able to practice detachment. This has changed how I look at life and people in general. I no longer waste time and effort holding onto things and people that don’t make me happy. It frees me up to do more and serve others.