I posted this status on Facebook on early July 2014:
What prompted me to post this status was merely my curiosity to find out if my circle of friends/ acquaintances have similar thoughts as those who were part of the Gallup study where they found out that “immediate supervisor is number one reason why employees leave.” Then born the expression, “People don’t leave jobs; they leave bosses.”
Based on the comments made on my status, I could see that good relationship with their superior seem to be the preferred choice although I personally think it depends on individual preferences and situations.
Being trained in personality type, I understand while some people derive more satisfaction from having good relationships, some found excitement in the tasks at hands. In MBTI, it’s thinking vs feeling and in Wholebrain model, it’s rational self (blue quadrant) vs emotional self (red quadrant.)
Our choice could also depend on which stage of career we’re in. I came across this quote today while browsing through some business articles:
“Don’t pick a job. Pick a Boss. Your first boss is the biggest factor in your career success. A boss who doesn’t trust you won’t give you opportunities to grow.” ~William Raduchel~
Then I remember the comment made by Asrul Muzaffar Mohammed, who said, “You can learn from a boss you admire and respect. That’ll be useful when you find a job you actually love later on in life.” This was exactly the situation I was in when I started my first job. My first boss who happened to be my mentor as well is a person I admire, respect and came to love as a friend. My journey throughout my career became like a walk in the park because he taught me so much and guided me through in which Asrul further commented on a similar personal experience, “More often than not, the boss is more likely to support you throughout your career.”
I’ve had at least 5 different bosses besides my mentor before I left employment to start my own business. I’ve had to say that my relationship with my former bosses were pretty awesome and I’m still in touch with at least 2 of them occasionally. After the wonderful experience I had with my first boss who was personally vested in my personal growth and career advancement, I was so optimistic that I just never did see any of my bosses as being difficult although I heard it differently from my colleagues reporting to the same superior.
I merely see them as someone who had to get their jobs done and I had to do the same as instructed. After office hours, we hung out casually and talked about everything else but work. I think this should be the way to foster good relationships with your bosses and even colleagues. Work is work. Don’t get those mixed up. Disaster strike when you start thinking of your boss as a friend and expect them to behave like one during working hours.
So, if you ask me now, would I rather work with someone I love on the job that I hate? No way! It’s different now. I’m no longer a fresh graduate just starting. I have a mentor and a coach to guide me outside of work. I don’t need to necessarily be emotionally involved with my boss and for sure, I don’t need any endorsement from them to get to the next level.
But the answer would be yes if I were starting out. It’s so important for you to have a pleasant working relationship with your boss and your colleagues when you just started out. Realistically, not all of us are that lucky, but I believe you need to create your own luck. If your current boss is making your life a living hell and is not going anywhere soon, you ought to seek for the job you love so much elsewhere.