None of my real family members are directly related to me by blood except my brother.
Before I begin sharing, I just want to let the readers know that I hardly share about my personal issues because I always think that for me to maintain my image as someone positive who can motivate others, I should always stay problem-free. But the problem here is that human beings are not problem-free. In fact, I realize that people tend to not take my advice seriously when they perceive me as someone who’s without problems. So, this is probably my first post that is going to shed some lights into my personal issues.
I heard from others about their family problems. Either one or more of their family members were so messed up that it stressed them out to the point of depression but yet they stick around because they believe “blood is thicker than water.” I think this phrase is very much applicable if your biological family genuinely love and care for you.
I, for one, do not have the luxury of that and therefore, I choose my own family members. I don’t want to bore you with the stories of my family drama because that’s not the main point here. The main point here is to give you another perspective of what a family really means to you. If you’re thinking of what the dictionary says about family, then you’ll probably not able to break free from whatever problems you’re facing with your family members because you’re bound by blood.
The true meaning of family to me are people in your life who genuinely or unconditionally love and care for you. They accept you without judgement, support you in all your decisions except those that harm you. They’re there for you during your happy times and most importantly, they’re there during your down times.
That’s why my friends are my family and their wonderful family members are like family to me as well. With this in mind, I’m grateful for the good life I’ve been blessed with. I don’t feel so alone even though my biological family members betrayed and neglected me after all the sacrifices I’ve made for them.
It gives me hope that people out there could really take care of you and in my case, more than my biological family ever could. For those of you who feel like it’s the end of the world when you’re disowned by your so-called family, I just want you to know there’s always hope. Break ties and move on to your real family and if you don’t have any yet, make some!